Many things has been said and done about the institution called MARRIAGE. Majority of the public want to take admission to this institution for a secured future (or sometimes for reasons better known to them) while some might want to stay out of it. And I am one of them (well at least as of now). Whoa! Good this article wont be read by my parents else I am screwed up.
Well the word Marriage is highly debatable and I am writing this article in favor of No- Marriage-required section of the society. With increasing competition and peer pressure to stay ahead in the rat race, it leaves very less room to this sometimes demanding commitment to people who cannot balance many cups on their already filled trays. It’s high time that parents stop succumbing to societal pressure and force their kids to bend down to this herculean obligation when the kid is not prepared for it. Many parents treat marriage as a mammoth responsibility that they want to shed off asap not realizing the kid’s agony. Many people who are unable to deal with this, ends up giving up on their lives or mess up with their now married life or retort to ways that would stop the wagging tongues.
One such case that I read was of a woman lawyer from Puri, Orissa. This lady in her mid 30’s took a desperate step of changing her sex as her family was forcing her to get married. She was not prepared for marriage as she did not want a family life which is being forced on girls in our society that is dominated by males and girls have no voice of their own. As a result of this, she did not inform her family about this and also threatened to commit suicide if she was not allowed to have the surgery done.
The woman submitted an affidavit stating her willingness to undergo the Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) operation that was performed on 29th June 2010. During the operation process that went on for 7 hours long, her female organs were removed and male organs were set in her body. She was injected with hormones to develop masculine attributes like a male voice, beard and moustache. The lady seems to have stated that “I feel free now. No one can force me to marry. It is better to become a man to get rid of sufferings met by women”.
Well I hope at least one parent (having a narrow approach) whose daughter/ son is of marriageable age reads this article and stops bugging their children. The only message I would like to give to the parents (including mine) is that: Wake up!!! Stop succumbing to societal pressure because at the end of the day society is not going to be there when you need help while your children would be there by your side. Support them. Don’t push them into what they don’t want to get into. The son/ daughter is your child not your source of duty fulfillment.
Well the word Marriage is highly debatable and I am writing this article in favor of No- Marriage-required section of the society. With increasing competition and peer pressure to stay ahead in the rat race, it leaves very less room to this sometimes demanding commitment to people who cannot balance many cups on their already filled trays. It’s high time that parents stop succumbing to societal pressure and force their kids to bend down to this herculean obligation when the kid is not prepared for it. Many parents treat marriage as a mammoth responsibility that they want to shed off asap not realizing the kid’s agony. Many people who are unable to deal with this, ends up giving up on their lives or mess up with their now married life or retort to ways that would stop the wagging tongues.
One such case that I read was of a woman lawyer from Puri, Orissa. This lady in her mid 30’s took a desperate step of changing her sex as her family was forcing her to get married. She was not prepared for marriage as she did not want a family life which is being forced on girls in our society that is dominated by males and girls have no voice of their own. As a result of this, she did not inform her family about this and also threatened to commit suicide if she was not allowed to have the surgery done.
The woman submitted an affidavit stating her willingness to undergo the Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) operation that was performed on 29th June 2010. During the operation process that went on for 7 hours long, her female organs were removed and male organs were set in her body. She was injected with hormones to develop masculine attributes like a male voice, beard and moustache. The lady seems to have stated that “I feel free now. No one can force me to marry. It is better to become a man to get rid of sufferings met by women”.
Well I hope at least one parent (having a narrow approach) whose daughter/ son is of marriageable age reads this article and stops bugging their children. The only message I would like to give to the parents (including mine) is that: Wake up!!! Stop succumbing to societal pressure because at the end of the day society is not going to be there when you need help while your children would be there by your side. Support them. Don’t push them into what they don’t want to get into. The son/ daughter is your child not your source of duty fulfillment.
U r right...parents should not be pressurizing their kids to get married until and unless they r mentally, emotionally and economically ready for this. But then there's one thing which causes major embarrassment to the parents n tht is the narrow minded society. For instance, if ur child does not get married even after 30, they start floating rumors like u r a gay, u r impotent, u have some problem etc etc. Maybe we do not take it to heart, but it causes a huge embarrassment to the parents, which leads to pressurizing the kids. All that we as kids can do is, convince our parents tht v cn tc of urself and make ourself so indispensable tht they think 100 times before getting us married :)
ReplyDeleteHello Sangeeta,
ReplyDeleteFirstly, I just hopped on to your blog and you have a really nice blog here. Your style of writing is wonderful.
About this topic you have written so correctly, it's obvious that this problem isn't gender-specific. As I'm currently having to deal with it. Though luckily my parents are really cool, but it is the so-called 'well-wishers' that often make life miserable for people like us.
Only if people would stop poking their big noses in others' lives and mind their own business.
You'll find more of me on your blog now. All the best. :)
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