Marriage Mirage leads to Sex Change

Many things has been said and done about the institution called MARRIAGE. Majority of the public want to take admission to this institution for a secured future (or sometimes for reasons better known to them) while some might want to stay out of it. And I am one of them (well at least as of now). Whoa! Good this article wont be read by my parents else I am screwed up.

Well the word Marriage is highly debatable and I am writing this article in favor of No- Marriage-required section of the society. With increasing competition and peer pressure to stay ahead in the rat race, it leaves very less room to this sometimes demanding commitment to people who cannot balance many cups on their already filled trays. It’s high time that parents stop succumbing to societal pressure and force their kids to bend down to this herculean obligation when the kid is not prepared for it. Many parents treat marriage as a mammoth responsibility that they want to shed off asap not realizing the kid’s agony. Many people who are unable to deal with this, ends up giving up on their lives or mess up with their now married life or retort to ways that would stop the wagging tongues.

One such case that I read was of a woman lawyer from Puri, Orissa. This lady in her mid 30’s took a desperate step of changing her sex as her family was forcing her to get married. She was not prepared for marriage as she did not want a family life which is being forced on girls in our society that is dominated by males and girls have no voice of their own. As a result of this, she did not inform her family about this and also threatened to commit suicide if she was not allowed to have the surgery done.

The woman submitted an affidavit stating her willingness to undergo the Sex Reassignment Surgery (SRS) operation that was performed on 29th June 2010. During the operation process that went on for 7 hours long, her female organs were removed and male organs were set in her body. She was injected with hormones to develop masculine attributes like a male voice, beard and moustache. The lady seems to have stated that “I feel free now. No one can force me to marry. It is better to become a man to get rid of sufferings met by women”.

Well I hope at least one parent (having a narrow approach) whose daughter/ son is of marriageable age reads this article and stops bugging their children. The only message I would like to give to the parents (including mine) is that: Wake up!!! Stop succumbing to societal pressure because at the end of the day society is not going to be there when you need help while your children would be there by your side. Support them. Don’t push them into what they don’t want to get into. The son/ daughter is your child not your source of duty fulfillment.

Monkey - Man

“Until he extends his compassion to all living things,

man will not himself find peace”

- Dr. Albert Schweitzer

The other day there was this one particular forward mail in my inbox that was really touching and made me think about the difference between man and animals. And now after this mail I was forced to place animals on the top in terms of compassion.

The two blind men in the photo were thirsty and wanted to drink water at the RagiGudda temple, Bangalore. However, they were unable to operate the tap.

This mother monkey opened the tap for them, allowed them to drink water, drank some water herself and then closed the tap before leaving the scene. Not only did the monkey have brains to help the needy people but also close the tap after use thus avoiding water wastage (either of which humans fail to do most of the times).

This is the most wonderful story that I have read in a long time and to think that there are still people in this world who don’t believe in the ‘humanity’ of animals. And worse of all, there are still so-called educated people who exploit these animals in the name of experimentation.

But, animals, for the most part, seem far more advanced than humans. We human beings are so involved in all this caste/ creed system that we fail to understand the word HUMANITY. However, animals don't have any kind of caste system. Maybe some day we human beings will learn from them. And its high time that humans recognize animals as equal though different, intelligent and emotional and compassionate!

wieder zurück - I am back again!!!

Finally I am back (hopefully) with a bang!!! (not that my readers were missing me :). After a long-time fight with the internet service providers, I am now having a connection working in proper condition. Hope it continues to stop hindering my blogging abilities.

It's 12 O'clock!

The other day I was reading a forward mail about Sikhism and the story behind Sardars. I felt that all the jokes and fun targeted towards this community been over-hyped and can hurt religious sentiments and it’s high time we start respecting the SIKHISM religion just like we respect our own religion. It is very common that whenever we think of foolish jokes, SARDAR JOKES get the maximum votes. In this process we fail to realize how beautiful this religion and the Sikh people are. I have never heard of a case wherein a Sardar has looted someone or raped someone or have indulged in any wrong doings. All this is because of their staunch faith in their teachings and their Gurus.

We keep teasing Sardarjis that “Barah Baj Gaye Kya?” but this particular forward mail made me realize what kind of losers we are. This mail tells the story behind Sardars and their connection with the time 12 O’Clock. The story goes this way:

During the 17th Century, when India was ruled by Mughals, all the Hindu people were humiliated by the Mughals treating all Hindu women as their own property and forcing the Hindus to accept Islam else kill them on refusal. That time, the 9th Guru, Sri Guru Teg Bahadarji came forward, in response to a request of some Kashmir Pandits to fight against all these cruel activities. Guruji told the Mughal emperor that if he could succeed in converting him to Islam, all the Hindus would accept the same. But, if he failed, he should stop all those activities.

Inspite of lots of torture to Guruji and his fellow members, the Mughals failed to convert him to Islam and Guruji along with his other four fellow members, were tortured and sacrificed their lives in Chandni Chowk. Thus Guruji sacrificed his life for the protection of Hindu religion. This is the reason he is still remembered as "Hind Ki Chaddar", shield of India. For the sake of whom he had sacrificed his life; none of them came forward to lift his body, fearing that they would also be assassinated.

Seeing this incident the 10th Guruji, Sri Guru Gobind Singhji (Son of Guru Teg Bahadarji) founder of the Khalsa made a resolution that he would convert his followers to such human beings who would not be able to hide themselves and could be easily located in thousands. At the start, the Sikhs were very few in numbers as they were fighting against the Mughal emperors. At that time, Nadir Shah raided Delhi in the year 1739 and looted Hindustan’s rich treasury and nearly 2,200 Hindu women along with him. Sardar Jassa Singh who was the Commander of the Sikh army at that time heard this news and decided to attack Nadir Shah's Kafila on the same midnight and rescued all the Hindu women and they were safely sent to their homes. Hereafter, whenever an intruder tried to loot the Indian treasury or women, the Sikh army although fewer in numbers but were brave hearted and attacked them at 12 o'clock midnight and rescued the women. After that time whenever a similar incident occurred, people started contacting the Sikh army for their help and Sikhs used to attack the raiders at Midnight, 12 o'clock. But, these "smart people" and some Sikh enemies who are afraid of Sikhs spread these words that at 12 O'clock, the Sikhs go mad. So that’s how the “Sardarji Barah Baj Gaye Kya?” became famous.

Sikhs are one of the hardest working prosperous and diversified communities in the world. There is this one more beautiful story shared to me by Gayu. Once a group of young boys visited Delhi. They rented a taxi for local sight-seeing. The driver was an old Sardar and boys being boys, these pals began cracking Sardarji jokes, just to tease the old man. But to their surprise, the fellow remained calm. At the end of the sight-seeing, they paid the cab hire-charges. The Sardar returned the change, but he gave each one of them one rupee extra and said, "Son, since morning you have been telling Sardarji jokes.. I listened to them all and let me tell you, some of them were in bad taste. Still, I don't mind coz I know that you are young blood and are yet to see the world. But I have one request. I am giving you one rupee each. Give it to the first Sardar beggar that you come across in this or any other city." And till date, the one rupee coin did not shift hands as they couldn't find a single Sardar begging anywhere.

MORAL:
The secret behind their universal success is their willingness to do any job with utmost dedication and pride. A Sardar will drive a truck or set up a roadside garage or a dhaba, put a fruit juice stall, take up small time carpentry, but he will never beg on the streets. They also have strong values instilled in them.

Cartoon - Part 4